You know how they say communication is so important? So is honesty. (Well I suppose they go hand in hand.)

I remember reading once — and I swear by this everyday — you will always have a hundred different reasons not to do something, and only one reason to do it. This is true of honesty as well. It's just so damned easy to lie. "I'll be there in 5 minutes (while I'm 20 minutes away not counting traffic but what the hey)", "I'll give it to you tomorrow! (pssh, yea like that's going to happen)", "Ofcourse I think it's okay darling! (OMG ARE YOU CRAZY, IT'S DISGUSTING?!)", and so on and so forth. In relationships, this is doubly, triply true, as in life. How easy is it to just push things away, just to deal with it later. A lot of times, the simplest thought is, well, what harm can it do anyway?

I was confronted with this a while ago. Having not told a certain someone a piece of information that could alter things, I chose to tell her. On what was probably the worst possible day to do it. I hadn't gotten a real chance to open the conversation up before then, but it was still my fault, and while I hadn't deliberately misled, that didn't make it excusable. This wasn't trying to clear my conscience and be a savior. It was about someone I trusted knowing the truth.

I merely asked myself one question: Did she need to know? Yes. It meant only one thing. It was now.

Two days later, when we moved past it, I went back and realized if anything, I wish I'd told her sooner. Tonight, by showing me how honest she really is, I feel worse about what I had done then. How I should never have let it get so late.